Since I became an adult (when did that happen?), I have been struck by how rare truly deep, enjoyable friendships really are. It's a rare gift to have another person with whom you can be truly yourself. And maybe it's naive of me to think this, but I think my pastoral role is a pretty inhibiting barrier to people getting close. They aren't quite sure they want their pastor knowing them "warts and all." Meanwhile, I'm not sure whether people I get close to will use their personal knowledge of my life as it really is (rather than how it is often perceived) to burn me, nor am I certain that I can still be someone's respected pastor and their close friend at the same time. Consequently, the temptation is to have many acquaintances, a few buddies to do fun things with, and to share your inner life with only your wife and maybe a fellow pastor friend or two.
Why is it so difficult to live your life with an unguarded soul?