Tuesday, April 8, 2008

Unguarded

Since I became an adult (when did that happen?), I have been struck by how rare truly deep, enjoyable friendships really are. It's a rare gift to have another person with whom you can be truly yourself. And maybe it's naive of me to think this, but I think my pastoral role is a pretty inhibiting barrier to people getting close. They aren't quite sure they want their pastor knowing them "warts and all." Meanwhile, I'm not sure whether people I get close to will use their personal knowledge of my life as it really is (rather than how it is often perceived) to burn me, nor am I certain that I can still be someone's respected pastor and their close friend at the same time. Consequently, the temptation is to have many acquaintances, a few buddies to do fun things with, and to share your inner life with only your wife and maybe a fellow pastor friend or two.

Why is it so difficult to live your life with an unguarded soul?

5 comments:

The Rosetto's said...

I think after Sunday we have a deep friendship. And if not I am really scared!! ;)

Horn herd mom said...

the rosettos: every time I want to laugh, I think of you--definitely the stuff deep friendships are made of

The Rosetto's said...

I've got an even better story for ya next time. My mom just told me tonight. And actually, I could have had a repeat event tonight but made it home just in time!!

The Bullhorn said...

Tiffany,

No worries. Sunday was a great night and lots of laughs. In fact, Karen and I have laughed a lot since.

Grandma H said...

Just my 2 cents worth: those who are easiest to be transparent with are individuals who have a deep understanding of their own depravity and also a high view of God's sovereignty and his grace. May we never forget what we've been forgiven of, what we're capable of in our flesh, and God's grace and forgiveness. Then we can extend grace and compassions to others.